The farther I go down the rabbit hole of Game, the more I realize why its hard for so many men to grasp.   One of the biggest concepts in Game is being playful, especially when questioned.  Even mundane questions should be avoided, but rather than dodge the question you must also be humorous.  This is something I’ve found myself doing more and more, even with women I have no intention of ever making a move on, and with men that aren’t friends.

I bolded the word friends for a reason, that being that most guys actually do know how to interact in a socially playful manner, they just aren’t used to doing it with women.

You walk into your buddy’s house, on the phone, as you get inside you end the conversation “alright, I’ll text you later, bye” You’re buddy asks “who was that?” “Your mother” He laughs “fuck you.  Want a beer?”

That example is a little stereotypical, but very plausible.  You never give your buddies a straight answer the first time, not because you want to remain secretive and mysterious, but just because its good fun.  This is the mentality that you must have when talking to women, and it’s not some secret method that activates some “I’m gonna fuck him” part of her brain, it’s simply because most men don’t treat women like that.

Now with women, though, you have to tone it down a bit.  ”Your mother” is a bit to harsh for a woman to handle.   It’s a personal attack, and you just can’t do that with women, they’re to sensitive and emotionally fragile.  They’ll take the joke and turn it into an insult, regardless of how obvious the humorous nature of the comment was meant to be.

Take the same scenario, but this time its a girl you’re trying to sleep with.  As you hang up she asks “who was that” now you have to dodge the question like you would if she was a male friend, but you have to tone it down a bit.  Now whats fun about interacting with women is, you can blatantly and obviously be lying with the answer you give, but if it makes you look higher in value she’ll accept its a lie, but disregard it and play along.

“Who was that?”

“My CIA contact… giving me new orders for a hit I’m making tonight”

“Oh, so you’re a hitman now?”

“I’ve said too much… I think I’m going to have to silence you now…”

“Oh and how are you going to do that”

Lean in and kiss her

“Like that”

Now that example is being a bit idealistic, most women, unless you’ve already slept with them, wont make it that easy for you, but you get the idea.  Clearly you aren’t a CIA hitman, yet she ran with it and allowed you to play as if you were.  Why?  Its fun!  And because most guys would’ve given a straight, boring answer to her question.  By being different you’re immediately separating yourself from the dozens of other guys she’s meets on a weekly basis.

Now this behaviour puts you on a knife-edge, and this is the true difficulty of male/female social interaction, and was a very hard part for me personally to understand.  You have to find a middle ground, but that middle ground is different for each and every female you interact with.  For newbies you have to constantly think about each move and each line for each woman, it gets very tiring very quickly, but practice makes perfect.  You also must accept that you will fuck up and fall off the knife-edge many, many times.

On one side you have boring, bland, beta behaviour that doesn’t stimulate her.  This is what most guys do when interacting with women, and it’s what most women expect from guys. While this behaviour wont immediately konck you off the edge, and off her ladder, it wont get you on it either.

On the other side you have both outlandish behaviour, and assholish behaviour.  This is where you simply go to far out there and lose her, or you come off as a sarcastic dick or both.  Some women will respond postively to behaviour like this, especially if you established behaviour like that early on, but if you suddenly start acting outlandish or dickish it’ll put her off.  This can work like a hail mary, sometimes, but there’s inherently a much higher social risk.

One thing that I’ve found is that, if your answer is good, most women dont mind if I actually stop to think for a few seconds, and then answer.  Compare this to when I simply had a brainfart and took a few seconds to directly answer a question a woman asked and was then mocked for not knowing it immediately.

You can also just ask her to repeat herself, then give her shit for not talking loud enough.  Most women, being the way they are, will then yell the question, now you can give her shit for yelling, make fun of her a bit and completely side track the conversation.

Eventually the cocky yet funny replies will come naturally.  You’ll begin answer everyone that way and quickly you’ll become “that guy” that everyone likes because you’re socially skilled and charismatic.

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