SCREENING AND ADAPTING 

VK’s Empire of Dirt is in league with gmac, dagonet and other “Young Turks of PUA.” He recently posted the brilliant “the one date question you should be asking.”

“So what do you think about the other guys you’ve dated in DC so far [vk lives in DC] ”

…It’s not that you really care but if you listen close enough she’ll basically tell you a list of traits the guys that have dicked her over have. If she say’s something like, “most of the guys she’s dated are needy and insecure or too clingy” this lets you know to be the opposite and be a detached alpha. If she says that, most of the guys she’s dated are “ too macho, arrogant and full of themselves” this allows you to fall back, try not to brag about your accomplishments as much and even show a more feminine side.

The point is to use this information to appear “different” from all the other guys she’s dated. Nothing turns a girl on more than dating a type of guy thats new or she thinks she’s never dated before. Even if you are like all the other guys she’s dated you can front on till you beat then after that be yourself aka the game move known as the “Switcheroo” or “the personality yoink”. Now if she wasn’t raised in a barn she will ask you the same question In return out of politeness.

This is the second part. It’s not your turn to list the traits of all the stuck up [girls] that have [screwed] you over. Guys complaining about other women on dates give off the possible serial killer probable date rape vibe. This is how you answer this question.

“I’ve been really lucky, I’ve met a lot of cool, interesting and smart women. I’m even friends with some of them still. But I’ve heard some horror stories from my friends, it seems that a lot of girls out there like to play games or are just crazy”

This answer again does two things. It makes you appear to date a lot of hot cool chicks while giving off the impression that some of them were good enough to keep around and still are. This will bring up the competition juice in your date to check herself and see if she measures up to the women of your pass. You bring in the comment about your friend though as a way of letting her know all the undesirable traits you don’t expect her to have. Flaking on dates, returning texts in an unreasonable amount of time, playing games… whatever you can think of. I’ve actually asked this question and been able to change my behavior on a dime that lead me to bang on the first date that night. You will learn from upcoming post that one of the most important skill to have in game is the ability to adapt to your date and the environment you’re in. Don’t memorize the line I just used word for word, learn the theory behind it. Happy hunting gentlemen

This is stupidly brilliant, because it preempts you being surprised by a “so how long was your last relationship/have you dated a lot/tell me about your last girlfriend.” Almost nothing can give a man a one-way ticket to no second date like any hint of complaint or bitterness about other women he’s dated. Note for guys on the rebound, this is a warning to not date until you’re ready. (If a woman asks you “how did your last relationship end” that’s not her business on a first date or any date until a relationship is on the table. Find a way to fitness-test-finesse around it.)

You control the frame, you qualify her, you show you are comfortable talking about your romantic pasts, you hint that if it goes bad with her, she’s not going to be the subject of an angry conversation with your next date, you are inviting her to talk about herself emotionally (women love that) AND you are getting golden information about her past and preferences. The only trap you have to avoid is the temptation to white-knight the guys who aren’t there – don’t cut them down, just DHV yourself.

THE JOURNEY OF GAME

Frustrated fellow OhioStater left the following comment at Hooking Up Smart’s “Know When To Fold ‘Em” thread. These are the words of someone who is beginning to digest the red pill. The poignant truth of the Manosphere is that there will be many, many more OhioStaters through the years – we need to be patient and strong with them, as they take time to come to the right way of seeing things. Time just like we did.

1. there are two types of guys: guys that have sex and guys that don’t. Generally, this distinction is involuntary, lacking ennobling considerations like religious celibacy. Usually, 5 diverse women come to same conclusion about a guy, meaning rejection by one is rejection by all [B: sounds like the list versus pizza analogy]. If a guy hasn’t scored recently, any sort of IOI (smile, number, etc) is water in a desert. It’s actually rational to purse this one opportunity, searching for fire after seeing smoke. This blog, correct me if I’m wrong, is mostly directed to women involved with “men that have sex”, helping them navigate their interactions with cads. This is useful to us since we want to see how cads behave. I’ll just say, men that don’t have sex want to become men that have sex. We want to become cads.

2. women generally have a hard time giving advice to men. Your [Susan's] insight however is outstanding. We all love the piece you did talking about how you lost attraction for a crying guy. We all knew it was true, but it was refreshing hearing a woman admit it. That said, I’m not sure of any instance where a woman has made a man. A single mother can raise a son, but a man, the father or not, does the dirty work of leading the youth toward good or evil. We should not expect you can give us the advice we want, but you are closer to this ideal than any woman on the web.

3. A chapter in the 48 laws of power named “be royal in your fashion” advises you should set the price “high” since your counterparty won’t respect you if you set the price low. It’s important men set their price “high”, interpret as you will, since women will negotiate down from that point. That means guys have to overshoot what they are looking for. Conversely, women assume guys, whether naughty or nice, or asking for all they can get. I’ve had girls approach me as if I was something special; I subsequently told them I was a normal guy, being modest. Afterwards, most of them treated me like a normal guy. What most betas lose sight of is, how in the world will a woman that doesn’t return your calls get excited about bearing and raising your children? If she won’t buy you a drink at the bar, what are the odds she will cook you dinner for the next 20 years?

#3 is a very advanced insight for a man at his stage, although it sounds simple: you get the respect you command from within. Play low status, and guys will play you for a second-class beta and women will play you for a chump. Play high status with high expectations, and people will play to them, and if not they will GTFO and you can find someone who will.

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